I hate reading other people’s field reports, so I can imagine what you must be thinking already. However, If you’re interested in social circle game, I promise this will be worth reading.
First the back story:
As you may or may not know, I currently prefer house parties because A. Younger girls. B. More alcohol. C. Better logistics.
To add to my own social value, I’ve been setting up big house parties at other people’s houses, cramming them full of au pairs I friended on Facebook. If you live in area with lots of au-pairs, friend all of them on Facebook, even the ugly ones — remember, most ugly girls have hot friends.
Also, understand that au-pairs are dying for a house party, or any party they can get into with their friends. Most of them sit at home on Friday/Saturday nights because they don’t know anyone and don’t know where to go. Exploit this without mercy. Later I will post about my Facebook game strategies and other stuff about house parties.
Now on to the field report:
Typical Saturday night, I was playing bouncer because it was my shift. Luckily the main entrance I was stationed at is also near the alcohol where everyone is socializing, so I didn’t mind being the bouncer. Somewhere around midnight this pair of Swedish au-pairs comes in: one girl is kinda cute (I’d give her a 7.6) and her friend, a giant, mammoth Viking woman with arctic blubber. Obviously I wasn’t interested in the latter. I introduce myself, and we shake hands. Somewhere 5 seconds into the interaction, I just wrap my hands around the cute girl and tell her, “I’m kidnapping you” in a sexy, whispery fun tone of voice. Her uglier friend looks and smiles as I go virtually direct. I continue this flirty vibe for less than a minute, turn her around, and say, “do you want to kiss me?” Of course she says no. This is when I move in and we make out right there. After the makeout I let her go for a bit.
Later I meet her downstairs. She’s in an empty room with just her and her friend taking flirty pictures, and I’m accompanied by a larger Russian guy who had been stalking the larger uglier Swedish girl. Even though his game was terrible, he did a fantastic job of keeping the friend busy. While he was trying to bang the friend in the closet, I put my target up against the wall and we started tonguing each other, my hand goes down into her pants and I can feel her vagina lips. She pulls my hand out, but I try again. Despite several failed attempts I manage to finger her a little bit. Then they both run off to dance, mainly because the friend wants to ditch the creepy Russian guy.
We follow them upstairs and they are dancing, so I walk off to the kitchen to grab a drink while the Russian tries to dance with them. It’s obviously he is either super drunk or has the worst game ever, or both; he followed them like a puppy, while I approached and escalated more gradually.
Fast forward to 4am: I’m making out with my girl. My guy friend, we’ll call him Super Natural Steve, pulls me aside when my girl isn’t looking and tells me to slow down a bit. He’s a big black dude with super tight natural game, so I listen and do what he says. I pull back on the escalation and stop making out, and the girl puts her arms around me and we start talking more. This worked out great because I could build more comfort.
Lesson learned: it’s good to start out strong and turn things sexual, but after that point, you want to slow it down so you can build comfort.
There was another important lesson learned: girls are utterly and hopelessly terrified of feeling like a slut.
I realized this when around 4am, after we got rid of the creepy Russian guy, there were still two random dudes hanging out in the living room chatting with each other. I hadn’t paid much attention to them, but it seemed funny they were still hanging around, because there were no other girls left in the house besides the two Swedish girls. It was clear the girls weren’t interested in them, but I hadn’t noticed something else, something that Super Natural Steve did notice. There was a problem. He summoned the two men outside to talk, and after that talk they were gone. Super Natural Steve comes back and tries to move the friend upstairs so I can get more quality time with my girl, but it’s too late. Their Taxi arrived to take them home.
After the girls leave, Super Natural Steve explains something to me that I’ll NEVER forget. He says, “FAZ, those two guys that were hanging out here, they were fucking up your chance to get laid, and they knew it. That girl is afraid they will talk about it. They will talk about it, and their friends will say something, and eventually it will come back to her. It doesn’t matter if you are alone with the girl in another room; she knows that if they see you take her into a room, in their mind sex is probably happening and that is reason enough for them to gossip about sex between you and her. You have got to make girls feel comfortable for sex to happen, and that means kicking out people who might talk about it.”
He goes on to say, “When I got those two guys outside, I asked them what they were still doing here. I told them there were no girls left, and that they needed to leave.” He continues, “if you want to have sex with a girl, it doesn’t matter if you have the privacy of a bedroom to yourself, she doesn’t even want anyone to witness her going into that bedroom, because she assumes they will spread gossip.”
This is what I call solid social circle game.
Super Natural Steve understands that, in social circle situations, you want to eliminate any chance, any possibility, and anything that could possibly make a girl feel uncomfortable. This includes someone witnessing a man/woman going off somewhere, because it is always assumed by any witness that they are having intercourse.
Girls know all too well that in social circles there is gossip, stories about who fucked who, and they don’t want to be in those stories, EVER.
